Okay, fine, not really. But I needed your attention.
We will NOT be holding the annual charity event this year.
I’ve spent a lot of time thinking and debating this decision. I’ve spoken to friends in the scene. In the end, the choice was clear.
I don’t feel like I need to explain, because the rest of you are living through the same 2020 we are, but here are a few of the reasons:
1.) It’s not fair to ask sexworkers to do free labor right now.
This is the big one, for me. I’m not going to do, or ask my friends to do, free labor right now. I don’t know who has a partner out of work, who has kids/family stuck at her home that make it difficult to record, whose clients fell off the face of the earth and made dents in her income. So I’m just not going to ask anyone to do free labor, period.
2.) I don’t want fans/supporters to feel like they’re missing out.
I know people plan and budget for new charity files every year, and I recognize that it may not have been possible this year. I don’t want people to feel like they have to miss out because 2020 fucked their wallet harder than any findomme ever could.
3.) I’m a healthcare worker, and I’m tired.
I want to say right up front that I have it better than most. I work in an ICU, but I work for a hospital with deep pockets and plenty of PPE, and I take care of babies/children. But this year has been exhausting anyway. I’ve come home after a stretch of days and slept for 12-13 hours. I haven’t done that since I was a teenager! We’ve got an 18%+ positive rate among staff, and it’s scary and draining to have to leave your house and go work in a building filled with hundreds of people, come in close contact to people all day, and know that a procedure mask is all that’s between you and whoever the dumbass next to you partied with that weekend. This charity drive takes a LOT of energy and time, and I am desperately short on both right now.
HERE IS WHAT I WILL ASK OF YOU:
If you can, make a donation to a local organization that helps kids at the holidays. I can’t give you anything in return, but feel free to tweet at me and let me know you did it. Honestly, seeing how generous and charitable our fans and followers are is a HUGE highlight of my year and I’m so sad to be missing out on that feeling this year!
Please consider sending a nice, fat Christmas tribute to the domme(s) of your choice. It’s been a ROUGH 2020, emotionally, for a lot of us. From the election to isolation to finances, a lot of Dommes got slammed. And often, they can’t show you any of the anxiety or fear or rage they felt because that’s not “sexy” and they’ve got to put on a show online. Getting a big chunk of cash will make far more of a difference than you know.