I tweeted this a few days ago:
I got a couple Curious Cats which boiled down to this:
So what type of rules were you thinking of?
I’m a sub of yours and afraid. If it’s just assholes who send dick picks and demand nudes than I can totally see that.
First of all, I never mentioned any rules. I’m not making rules for dudes. That’s… Well, that’s the opposite of what I want to do. If anything, I want to pay less attention to men.
My reply was that it’s simple – give, don’t take.
I’m going to use one of my wonderful slaves as an example. Here’s how this (silly little!) slave communicates with me.
He ONLY speaks to me when he has a gift and/or tribute to offer. The picture above is the past 10 days. He’s been a bit chatty, as you can see! When he wants to speak to me, he sends a giftcard of at least $25 (oh, and most of the giftcard notes include the order number of a physical gift he has purchased as well!). I reply – genuinely, with excitement. If he wants to say something back? Another giftcard.
He simply GIVES. He never TAKES. He understands (and is fulfilled by the fact) that he will not be catered to—at all, ever.
That right there is a very good boy. If I get a notification from him? Automatic smile. Automatic delight. He brings nothing but light into my life and he takes nothing from me in return. He would continue to give if I ignored him entirely. THAT IS THE DEFINITION OF TRUE WORSHIP.
This sort of attitude is why he hears from me all the time. I once even made him a custom session that he never commissioned, just because I WANTED to. (He might be getting another in the next couple months too. 😏)
So my tweet was about how I am empowering myself to focus my attention on men who live for my pleasure in this way because… simply put… I don’t have to do anything else. I don’t have to make any money here; this isn’t my job. So unlike other ladies (and myself, when this was my profession) I don’t have to cater to men who are anything less than truly selfless slaves.
I am free. Free to be a wicked, impetuous, selfish, cruel, hedonistic goddess. Free to be addicted to my own pleasure, and absolutely indifferent to the needs and wants of men.
So that’s what I meant – give, don’t take – or else you bring nothing to the table that I want to devour.
Lastly, not everyone I engage with has to be my slave, of course! I chat now and again with hypno-subs, engage with a lot on Twitter. I have a whole host of customers over on my other site who are amazing and deeply valued. Plenty of friends and fans say hello, dote on me with a gift now and then, enjoy my work, etc. ALL of these things are without the Mistress/slave relationship—and they are all awesome! This “give don’t take” musing is solely about those who seek to belong to me as devoted subs/slaves. I’m not doing this for profit anymore, so my tolerance for selfishness can no longer be rented.
(And with impeccable timing, my silly little slave just sent another giftcard. I’m going to go redeem it and tell him to come see how I’ve shown him off here, lol!)