The One Where Ember Clocks a Submissive Man

I’m too tired to type. Soooo instead I chatted into a mic some thoughts about projecting your submissive nature to potential romantic partners without being creepy or seeming like a doormat.

Alternate title: How to be Attractive to Women LIKE Ember… Because I’m obviously not speaking for all Dommes or all women here. But if you’re on my blog, I’m assuming you are interested in what *I* (and women like me) find attractive.

I’m tired and I don’t edit these fuckers. So listen at your own risk. ūüėÄ

I tried to explain anything of relevance, mostly basic medical knowledge, that clarifies my story here. To some of you, it will seem like I over-explained a few things. I get that, but as a counterpoint I will offer that some of the dumbest humans on earth visit my site and ask me questions that make me wonder how they fucking feed and clothe themselves.

(I also sort of feel like I can’t possibly have any deaf fans so there isn’t a transcription. If I’m wrong, drop a comment and I’ll have one of my boys transcribe the audioblog.)

Give, Don’t Take

I tweeted this a few days ago:

I got a couple Curious Cats which boiled down to this:

So what type of rules were you thinking of?

I’m a sub of yours and afraid. If it’s just assholes who send dick picks and demand nudes than I can totally see that.

First of all, I never mentioned any rules. I’m not making rules for dudes. That’s… Well, that’s the opposite of what I want to do. If anything, I want to pay less attention to men.

My reply was that it’s simple – give, don’t take.

I‚Äôm going to use one of my wonderful slaves as an example. Here’s how this (silly little!) slave communicates with me.

He ONLY¬†speaks to me when he has a gift and/or tribute to offer. The picture above is the past 10 days. He’s been a bit chatty, as you can see! When he wants to speak to me, he sends a giftcard of at least $25 (oh, and most of the giftcard notes include the order number of a physical gift he has purchased as well!). I reply – genuinely, with excitement. If he wants to say something back? Another giftcard.

He simply GIVES. He never TAKES. He understands (and is fulfilled by the fact) that he will not be catered to‚ÄĒat all, ever.

That right there is a very good boy. If I get a notification from him? Automatic smile. Automatic delight. He brings nothing but light into my life and he takes nothing from me in return. He would continue to give if I ignored him entirely. THAT IS THE DEFINITION OF TRUE WORSHIP.

This sort of attitude is why he hears from me all the time. I once even made him a custom session that he never commissioned, just because I WANTED to. (He might be getting another in the next couple months too. ūüėŹ)

So my tweet was about how I am empowering myself to focus my attention on men who live for my pleasure in this way because… simply put… I don’t have to do anything else. I don’t have to make any money here; this isn’t my job. So unlike other ladies (and myself, when this was my profession) I don’t have to cater to men who are anything less than truly selfless slaves.

I am free. Free to be a wicked, impetuous, selfish, cruel, hedonistic goddess. Free to be addicted to my own pleasure, and absolutely indifferent to the needs and wants of men.

So that’s what I meant – give, don’t take¬†– or else you bring nothing to the table that I want to devour.

Lastly, not everyone I engage with has to be my slave, of course! I chat now and again with hypno-subs, engage with a lot on Twitter. I have a whole host of customers over on my other site who are amazing and deeply valued. Plenty of friends and fans say hello, dote on me with a gift now and then, enjoy my work,¬† etc. ALL of these things are without the Mistress/slave relationship‚ÄĒand they are all awesome! This “give don’t take” musing is solely¬†about those who seek to belong to me as devoted subs/slaves. I’m not doing this for profit anymore, so my tolerance for selfishness can no longer be rented.

(And with impeccable timing, my silly little slave just sent another giftcard. I’m going to go redeem it and tell him to come see how I’ve shown him off here, lol!)¬†

Christmas, Charity, and Forty Large

A lot of little lights will be brighter this year, because of YOU.

In 2012, on a whim, mere months after I entered the scene I decided to fill my wishlist with toys and asked you to buy them for charity. I gave out 3 loops as thank-you gifts (they are not offered in the Limited Edition Store so if you have them, you are an OG hypnofan of mine!)

That year, $677 worth of toys were bought. I donated them to an organization in MA which supports survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

I had long since lost touch with the truest magic of Christmas, but being able to give these toys to kiddos who were having a really rough Christmas absolutely made my year. And oh boy‚ÄĒI was hooked!

The annual Spiral Seductions charity drive has grown wildly since then. This year, we have files from five different Dommes and guess what?

Adding up all the years, we have crossed over the “$40,000 raised” mark.

This year’s drive will end tomorrow, December 1st, at 11:59pm EST.

(Realistically, I will probably get home from the hospital and crash at like 10pm and not take the drive stuff down until the following morning so people could donate overnight, but I’m only guaranteeing I will leave the donation pages up through 11:59pm.)

Please, please, keep the donations coming! Tell your friends! This is the LAST CHANCE to get anything from the Limited Edition Store for the next 355-ish days!

It’s also your last chance to donate to an amazing cause. We Dommes don’t earn a single cent from these files – it is a labor of love from start to finish. 100% of proceeds go directly to buying gifts for the organization which helps survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

Btw, while most of you haven’t been embittered by life (and have paid attention to all the donation receipts and pictures of packed cars heading for donation that I’ve posted over the years), I can appreciate some healthy skepticism. So for anyone wondering, the reason I say “proceeds” rather than “donations” is that we lose money to processing fees. It’s about 3.5%, but varies a few tenths of a percent each year depending on how many Amazon donations come through since those don’t lose anything.

So “100% of proceeds” means “100% of money that hits my account,” which is $7,554.14 of the $7,819.80 donated as of writing this post.

I also end up having to rent a car and buy gas or (like this year) hiring my handyman to do the 8-hour round-trip drive, so actually this drive ends up costing me money. (It’s so worth it. This is my favorite time of year.)

Thank you to everyone who has taken part, and A HUGE “Thanks, I hate you, but seriously THANKS” to all you last-minute donors who will make tomorrow special. I know you’re out there, testing my nerves, stressing me out, making me wonder what the final total will actually BE. But you’re also the ones who make the last day magical. Pretty please do that again this year!!

I’ll try to update a couple times if I can during the day tomorrow, but I’ll be pretty busy trying not to kill any patients.

Charity Drive 2018 Countdown…

It’s almost that time of year again! This will be the 6th year we collect donations around the holidays and use them to make Christmas brighter for survivors of sexual/domestic violence and their kiddos.

During this charity drive, as always, the Limited Edition Store will be open and you may claim these exclusive files as thank-you gifts for your donations. This year’s drive dates are as follows:

WED, November 21st ‚ÄĒ SAT, December 1st

And oh boy, you’re in for an incredible treat in 2018. FIVE Dommes (yes, including myself) have contributed a total of SEVEN new files to the Limited Edition Store this year. Trust me, I know – holy shit.

CHECK US THE HELL OUT:
(Clicking on anyone’s image will bring you to their webpage…)

I can’t overstate how cool this is, how amazing the files are this year, or how badly you’re going to kick yourself if you don’t donate during the charity drive.

Because while most of you know this, I’ll repeat it for our newcomers – you can ONLY get Limited Edition files for the days the charity drive is going on. That’s just a handful of days per year. If you miss them now, your next chance to get them will be at the end of 2019!

There will be plenty more information when the drive opens Wednesday*, including descriptions for all new files (a few are already up!), detailed instructions on how to donate, info about the cause we support and the family we “adopted” and more.

For now just do what you do best and get excited. ūüėČ

*Please note that when I say the drive will open on Wednesday, I am not promising when. Early afternoon is my guess, but I’m putting in 15-hour days at the hospital both Monday and Tuesday, so let’s be real, I will not be dragging my ass out of bed Wednesday morning at a respectable hour.

Halcyon Daze

As many of you have figured out, I’ve privately released my first file in a LONG time!

I love this one… It’s just absolutely everything I want in a dominant hypnotic trance. I know you’re going to love it too! (In fact, some of you who have it have already told me how much you love it, lol.)

Length: 18+ minutes (optionally loopable)
Price: $19.99 $9.99

NOTE: The intro price of $9.99 is valid through 01/11/2018, and is only available to those who received a NF email with a private Goody Bag link! On Friday, the file goes live to the public and the price will be $19.99.

If you don’t already have this file, go check your NF account¬†RIGHT NOW and see if you were among the lucky ones to get a link to the private and discounted Goody Bag. If not, you can wait until Friday to buy it when the bag goes live to the public!

This is¬†a singularly sultry, layered erotic trance – truly the Halcyon Daze. It’s a gorgeous¬†hypnotic mind warp perfect for every submissive friend, fan, or follower.

It’s an all-consuming mesmerizing experience of deepest submission, a craving to serve, intense physical arousal, deep peace and pleasure, and an abiding need to be MINE – can you imagine anything sweeter or more perfect?

You’ll want to re-live these Halcyon Daze over and over again.

And you CAN!!! Because this mp3 works as a straight-shot trance or it can be looped for extended pleasure and play.

Since it’s loopable, there is no induction. This file is ALL content, and uses my Drop Like a Rock trigger in the place of a induction.

(On that note, don’t be alarmed that it starts a little abruptly with no music fade in or anything – don’t worry, that IS the beginning, that format is what makes it loopable!)

*This is a NF-Exclusive file. It will not be made free, nor will it be available for purchase on any other platform or with any other payment method.

‘Twas the Night

Tomorrow morning, dozens of families recovering from domestic and sexual violence are going to celebrate better, brighter Christmases because of everything you guys helped us do. Ladies and gents, subs and Dommes – so many people came together to donate to our annual charity drive and raised $8,890.53!!!

I bought a lot of presents with it… Like, a lot.

Then I tetris-ed them into boxes:

Many boxes. And I tetris-ed those into a mini-van I rented:

AND AWAY WE WENT. It was amazing! The 8 hours of driving I did right after a final exam wasn’t exactly paradise, but it was SO worth it! The people at the organization were incredibly humbled and grateful, and knowing so many kids (including those in our adopted family!) are going to have such wonderful visits from Santa made my day – made my week, my year really.

It’s not just the gifts for the kids that help the families. I bought a lot of gifts for women too, because the organization sets up a whole “store” (obviously doesn’t cost anything to shop in) for the kids to pick out gifts for their moms. They know mom went through hell. Many probably witnessed the violence done to¬†mom and would give anything to make her feel better. And not only will those kids get great gifts themselves, they get to give mom something special too. How awesome will that be!?!?

No one has been all up in my inbox like,¬†“Okay, but how do we know you don’t secretly have like 12 kids you’re just making us Christmas shop for your little brats?” I’d chalk your trust up to my six and a half years on the EH scene, but I’ve been doing this drive since the start and I’ve never had anyone be mistrustful even when I was brand new.

But I like to give you proof that I donated anyway. Or, at least, the closest I can come to proof. I have to heavily redact this because it has a family member’s real info and also because unfortunately association with a sex worker might not be the best thing for an organization that helps women who are victims of sexual abuse. But I’m in possession of a donation receipt for $8900 worth of stuff¬†given to a non-profit in Florida¬†on December 11th of this year, at least!

I donate in a¬†loved one’s¬†name, as a Christmas gift of sorts to him, so that’s why donor info is back in my¬†home state of MA, in a town¬†that you’ll recognize from my previous wishlists, lol.

Yes, it’s for like $10 more than y’all donated. I over-buy a bit because I’m always afraid things will arrive broken at the last minute and I’ll be under. I also shell out for rental car and gas. I’m a peach. ūüėÄ

One more thank-you to everyone who participated. This is seriously my favorite time of year, and it’s all because of your generosity. If you missed the drive, start saving up¬†NOW and follow me on Twitter so you’ll¬†be ready¬†when the drive kicks off in 2018!

Mistress Amethyst’s FREE File!

Mistress Amethyst likes to record a FREE FILE¬†around the holidays and this year ONLY people who donated to the charity event this year can get a copy!¬† She’s a little under the weather and is going to wait a bit to record until her voice is in mind-melting form again. The silver lining to this is that you have one last chance to get on the list of people who are going to receive her file!

ANYONE who donated to the charity drive is eligible to receive Mistress Amethyst’s free file. It doesn’t matter how much you donated or whether your donation was already used to claim files in the Limited Edition store or not. I have sent an email this evening with the subject¬†“Checking Her List…” to everyone already on the list.

If you donated to the drive but did NOT get an email from me tonight and would like to be added to the list to receive¬†Mistress Amethyst’s FREE FILE, you must reply to the Limited Edition Claim Form you submitted after donating to the drive. That’s how I will verify your donation.

THIS FILE HAS BEEN GIVEN OUT ALREADY. You can have access to it next year.